Emotional dependence is a state of mind where you feel uncertain, find it difficult to make decisions for yourself, allowing others to manipulate you and constantly feeling vulnerable and confused. It is an unpleasant feeling and you constantly feel a little disappointed in yourself. When we look for happiness and reassurances from others we constantly hold them as a source of validation for our own happiness and absurdities. We then fail to be emotionally self-reliant. Overcoming emotional dependency is being aware of the answers you need to create the life you want for you.
It is not others job to fill our emotional void or needs and we should realize that the true emotional fulfillment can only be provided by loving yourself. Happiness isn’t in the future or in someone else. It is within us, at all times.
How to Become Emotionally Strong or Overcoming Emotional Dependency
- Be aware of who you are:
Accept yourself and don’t deny who you are. To become a better version of yourself you first need to embrace your true self and be aware of your strengths and weaknesses.
- Don’t be stuck in the past:
When you’re constantly stuck in your past you are unable to move forward or make better choices for yourself. It hinders your growth to remember past events and people and to hold on to regrets. By doing so you create a vicious cycle and by doing so you forget to live your life and feel constant disappointment and sadness.
- Make decisions for yourself:
Overcoming emotional dependency requires you to make logical, reasonable, choices especially the ones you make on your own. Don’t rely on others to talk to you or make decisions on your behalf because they seem more decisive. Ask yourself exactly what you want from life and don’t be afraid to achieve it. Trust yourself, your instincts and be confident about what you want or think. Make mistakes, learn from it and do better next time.
- Don’t ask permission:
When making big decisions in life we often seek advice from our family and friends. Although we may simply ask for feedback, what we really want is validation for someone to say, It’s alright to do that. By doing so it takes us away from being self-reliant. Nobody can give you 100% surety for your decisions. You just have to be in sync with yourself and take the necessary plunge.
- Don’t get too attached to people:
We all need our support system i.e. our friends and families even pets for that matter. But when we get too attached we are unable to do our best as individuals or to have our own point of view. Learn to keep a healthy balance between yourself and relationships. Learn to expect less from others, so don’t feel disappointed later on.
- Take full responsibility:
Take responsibility for the choices and the decisions you make. It means to be entirely aware of your thoughts, feelings, actions and accept them.
Get Professional Help
Speak to a mental health professional for proper support and care. Visit Cadabam’s Hospitals or call @+91 97414 76476 for best help to overcoming emotional dependency.