Indian parents' biggest worry is often a child choosing an unconventional career. In an old interview with Biscoot TV, Deepika Padukone shared that she never went to college. "I finished my 11th and 12th, and even that I just about managed, because I was already a very successful model by that time," she said. She tried a year of a college degree and then distance education, and could complete neither. "So I'm just a 12th pass, which my parents back then had a big issue with."
Her parents wanted her to work only after a basic degree, "a very conservative Indian way of looking at it", she said. Once they saw how passionate she was, they relented. The Indian Express asked Neha Parashar, Senior Psychologist at Cadabam's Hospitals, why such choices meet resistance.
Why unconventional careers are frowned upon
The most significant factor, Neha Parashar explained, is the uncertainty and instability associated with creative fields. Unlike medicine, engineering or law, which offer clear career trajectories, financial security and societal respect, unconventional careers are perceived as volatile, creating social stigma in conservative families.
"In traditional families, there is often a strong expectation to conform to societal roles and norms, with family honour and reputation of paramount importance. These families may encourage careers that are not only stable but also socially acceptable," she said.
The added pressure on women
Family expectations also discriminate by gender. For women, the pressure against unconventional paths is even greater. Careers that involve long, late hours, travel and public scrutiny are frowned upon in favour of family life, marriage and stability, and in some families academic achievement, a stable career and a steady income remain the ultimate markers of success.
Times are changing
As actors and icons speak openly about their journeys, a cultural shift is under way, one that encourages younger generations to prioritise job satisfaction and personal fulfilment over titles and salaries. Actors, musicians, writers and artists with global recognition serve as role models, showing that creative careers are viable and respected.
"The visibility and opportunities available to creators on these platforms have made it easier for individuals to succeed in creative careers without traditional industry gatekeepers," she said, adding that families are changing their attitudes as they see their children thriving in creative fields that offer both personal and financial rewards.
Support at Cadabam's Hospitals
Choosing a path your family does not understand can be isolating and stressful. Cadabam's Hospitals offers confidential counselling for career anxiety and family conflict, and family therapy that helps parents and young adults hear each other. Our team is here to help.